Top 4 Ways to Honor Your Marriage

I met my husband 31 years ago. However, we’ve been married for 7 years! One may ask, how can we know one another for so long and only have been married for 7 years? Our story is unique with many surprises, twists, and turns. One thing for sure is that he was the one that should always have been. Despite my failed relationships of old, John became the husband that my heart longed for and one that God chose for me. For I have come to believe that my beloved was chosen for me and there are 4 ways I choose to honor our marriage as we walk this journey of life together.

Put God First in Your Marriage

I believe our society has diminished the need for spirituality in marriages. John often tells me he believes God created me from his rib, just as Eve was created from Adam. I am not perfect but take it to heart that when I made the decision to marry John, I united with him and became one (Matthew 19:9). My devotion is to God first, but I do not place anyone or thing above my husband. I go to him for his opinion on decisions I make in my life and take his opinion to heart. If you are married to someone who is inconsiderate of your feelings, it destroys the trust and bond that you ultimately need for a thriving marriage. Take the first step and see what comes to fruition when you decide to make your spouse a priority.

Support Him in His Goals

Recently I asked my husband if money wasn’t an option and you could do something for a living that you love, what would it be? He responded with, “I would start a restoration business and a “How To” YouTube channel displaying my projects.” I told my husband to start working on his dream now, don’t wait. Don’t wait to start your dreams and encourage your beloved in his goals!

Tell Him You Appreciate and Love Him

My husband had a heart attack earlier this year and every day I’m able to wake up with him is a gift! There may be a day where it could be your last together, tell him you love him before he heads out the door and before bed at night. St. Paul tells us in Ephesians 5:33, “Each one of you must love your wife as yourself and the wife must respect her husband.” Before I gave my life to Christ and before I married John, I had a warped view of marriage according to the world’s standards. Understanding the sacramental bond of marriage changed everything once I understood that it is an unbreakable bond of love between us led by God.   

Defend Him to the World

I make it a point to NEVER complain about my personal shortcomings and that of my spouse to others. We are not perfect beings, and we all have shortcomings that we are currently working on. In my experience, if someone complains to me about their husband and how they act, I don’t engage in complaints. Defend your spouse to the world and keep your complaints to yourself in prayer.

In one of my previous posts, I discussed how good leaders operate from a servant’s heart. Offer this same idea to your spouse. Take the first step and evaluate how you can honor your marriage. You may surprise yourself with what you discover!

“I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine.” Song of Songs 6:3